Sleepy Time
Fill 'Em Up
It's natural—especially in the first few weeks—to feel as though all you're doing all day is nursing. That's because you essential are. "Babies have small tummies," says Bleskan. "If we try to spread out the feedings during the day, the result is having to eat at night." Instead of judging a baby's sleep patterns by age (and, thus, comparing it to your friends' babies at the same age), weight is a better indicator of how long they can go without food. In addition to their weight, another factor that impacts length of sleep is the nervous system. Babies have six different states of awareness, explains Bleskan, and being able to move through them (such as drowsiness into deep sleep into light sleep back into deep sleep) will affect how well they sleep—another reason why one sleep tactic might work well for one parent and fail for another.
Trade Off
Even if your baby needs to wake after four hours, there are ways you can try to maximize your own sleep—especially if you have a spouse or partner who can help. For example, if baby goes to sleep at 7 p.m. and you go to sleep at 9 p.m., have your partner bottle-feed the baby before they go to sleep at 11 p.m. With a little finagling, you can manage to sneak in some continuous sleep for yourself, even if baby isn't there yet.
Night and Day
As a baby learns to differentiate between day and night, be mindful of the sleep and napping environments you're creating. Bleskan advises not to use a "one type" sleep environment, in which you keep the room dark and use a sound machine for all naps and at night—unless you want your child to need all of those elements in order to sleep. "You don't want them to be so conditioned that that becomes the only place or way they can sleep," she says. While a dark room and white noise is fine for nighttime sleeping, let your baby take naps in sunlit rooms to help establish their circadian rhythms.
Nap Notes
The number of sleep hours an infant logs in 24 hours depends on age. At week one, they require 16 hours, which decreases to 14 hours by month one and 13 hours by month three. If they're sleeping a fair bit during the day, they're using up their sleep "storage" before nighttime even hits. Even though you'll still want to maintain a nap schedule, you can gradually transfer some of their daytime sleep into the night by waking them up if they're snoozing too long. "You don't want to make them cranky, but you want to encourage a different level of awareness," says Bleskan. For shortening naps or moving the naps around, she suggests changing environments and being active around the baby after waking them up. For instance, take them out of the room in which they were napping and have playtime in another room.
Co-Sleep Longer
A common misnomer Bleskan has encountered is the age at which most parents (and some pediatricians) say a child should start sleeping on his own. While there's the tendency to want to put a baby in her crib within a few months, Bleskan suggests waiting until they're 12 months, which is also the recommendation of the American Academy of Pediatrics. Besides the potential safety benefits, sleeping in the same room and sharing a sensory space together helps babies subliminally learn how to regulate their breathing patterns and their nervous system during sleep.
Sleep at an Angle
Until three months of age, Bleskan suggests that every baby sleep at an incline. The reason? The gasket that connects the esophagus and throat isn't fully closed prior to three months of age and laying them on a flat surface causes them to regurgitate what they've eaten. This is why many babies experience acid reflux—a potential cause that could be waking them up in the middle of the night. Either elevate the mattress slightly or try having them sleep in a sleeping rocker and see if that results in a longer stretch of sleep.
